Happiness

Are you happy? Yes, you. Are you happy? I can hear that whining no. Poor you, life has been treating you badly. But wait. If you can read this blog, there are too many things you need to be thankful for. You know why? Because you are one of the lucky people who’ve escaped visual impairment, literate enough, have the time to read, seated under a roof for shelter and can afford a computer and internet connectivity.

So you still think that’s not just enough to make you happy. People say that being content makes you happy. But that’s not true. You should never be content with what you have in order to be happy. I am already with you, ain’t I? So what have you been doing with your life? You earn, you eat, sleep. But still not happy.

There is something that’s been bothering you. You don’t have what you want. What is it? Peace? Money? Love? All these three seem difficult to earn. But what measure have you taken to have what you want? Is someone else is responsible for your state? If you have spent your life thinking that your happiness is at someone else’s hand, you’ve already wasted all your time with a deceptive perception. If money is your motive, why haven’t you been able to achieve it? Its because you haven’t given your 100%.

Foremost, jot down what your purpose in life is, based on your interest and skills. Are you good at cooking? What are you doing in a construction firm? Does that make you shameful to be a cook or is it that money you cannot earn in either of the profession? Think broadly. While you are an engineer, you can still make additional money by giving cookery tips on the net, papers or tv shows. If that doesn’t sound feasible, start your own home foods and become a small time supplier to sell it. Even if you find one person to sell it, you’ve already stepped on the stone to success. (Read http://www.malavikka.blogspot.in/2014/03/small-is-big-bigger-innovation-and_17.html to know how small ideas can help you big time.) You need not have big investments, start it on a small scale to do what you love, even if you don’t earn profits, your job satisfaction will drive you towards benefits soon. This way, your peace is resolved too.

As for love, you cannot lose what you have given away. If it’s a past relationship or a deceased person, its irrevocable. But earth is full of people whom you can count on. It is common to hide yourself and be scared of humans because they all hurt and betray you. But remember, you are special and man is a social animal. There will be lot others who would understand you and share your interests although you are unique by birth. Just take off those glasses of pessimism and wear vigilance. Be friendly before making friends. Not everyone you talk to need to be considered a friend, although each new person you talk to are going to be added into your list of assets because atleast you are trying to become social and earn true relationships. Social networking helps a lot to connect with people provided you know its disadvantages and stay vigilant and follow some small virtues to guard yourself.

 Most important of everything is to keep yourself engaged. Practice your hobbies or go out and explore. It is okay to crawl around, if that’s all you can do rather than staying there put, doing nothing. Keep moving, appreciate people around you for they chose be around you, trying to make a difference in your life. No matter how small their contribution is, they still keep pushing you. If you are not happy with your current state, it means you have to work to get what you want but nevertheless you are far much fortunate than most people in the world because there are homeless, ill and weak people out there who cannot even do what you can but still keep moving only because they believe that they can. Make it a point to appreciate atleast one person today. Don’t feel blessed? Look above, you have a ceiling under which you are comfortably seated. Look outside, there are trees that give you shade. Life is full of gifts which we never appreciate. Wear your smile because you are happy already with so many assets. Make the best out of what you have. 

Make it a point to be happy today, because, your happiness lies in what you think of yourself. Take away those things that trouble you, be it jealousy, greed or vengeance. Karma has its own way of repaying things. People who wrong will get punished by their own acts. So stop worrying because its not going to do you good. List out the things that will make you happy and devise methods to achieve it. If it doesn’t seem achievable, its time you pick up an alternative rather than cribbing. Are you happy? Yes you are, because you deserve to be and already blessed abundantly.